Sunday, July 25, 2004

On a day like today - the whole world could change
the sun's gonna shine - shine thru the rain
on a day like today - no one complains
free to be pure - free to be sane
on a day like today
ya never wanna see the sun go down
ya never wanna see the sun go down.....
 on a day like today
 
have a wonderful week, stay out of trouble. :-)  love you.

Monday, July 19, 2004

there was an apple on the counter, the kind that sits there for a few days and looks soo good you just want to  eat it, but you think to yourself, let it sit, let it ripen one more day, just one more day.   an apple that i was looking forward too, ohh so much, the kind that is perfectly shaped, with just the right amount of shine.  perfect to eat.
 
and when i finally gave in and took a bite out of that apple it was the most bitter tasting thing i have ever eaten.  ever.
 
the bitter taste was left upon my lips for the past few weeks.  and after awhile the bitter taste and feeling has built, and left me feeling bitter and angry.
 
this situation, i have felt very bitter and angry about it for too long.  and i have complained and done nothing about it for too long.  i hate people that do that.  dont complain if you arent going to do anything about it.  complaining gets you no where.
 
so stop it katie, stop it damn it.
 
sometimes things are rough on both sides of the fence, and you have to take a good long hard look at the other side before you realize it. 
 
so i will humble myself, as i should have at the beginning, and i will reteach myself the art of compassion.  to be used, even when it is not deserved, in hopes that maybe, just maybe some will come back to me.
 
and i  know it wont be easy, so... help me, please.

Saturday, July 17, 2004

well it has been quite the week i must say, and i miss the tropical weather, and the beach and the ocean already, but it does feel good to be home...
 
but enough about home... how about a little recap of the last week :-)
 
where to begin?  how about last saturday, the day before we left. 
Saturday:
saturday i worked an 11 hour day, from 7 am-6 pm, and then upon returning home, instead of packing i decided i needed to see my dear paige one more time before i left for an entire week.  paige and i hit up the mini golf course at kimballs to show off our incredible tiger woods skills, which paige used more effectively than i did, and kicked my humbled mini-golfing butt.  we celebrated with ice cream, and slushies, and i got the grand tour of the new McAuliffe residency. 
 
i return home around 10:45, and as i walk in the door the phone rings.  ashley tells me she is packed and ready to go, she is just waiting for her parents to get home so she can say goodbye.  she yells at me for not even starting to pack, since by this point it is almost 11:15.  i hang up with her to call my drunken boyfriend to say goodbye before i leave for a week.  he advises me to be safe and wear sunscreen, a very sentimental and heartfelt goodbye.  i hang up annoyed, even more soo when i realize that packing still has not commenced without me.  when ashley arrives at around 11:30 she is a little annoyed by my severe procrastination, and i further this annoyance by informing her that we need to make a midnight run to walmart, because of course, i do not have all of the things that i need.  the drive there is uneventful, but the moment we walk into the gi-normous 24 hour walmart super center in amherst NH, ashley seemingly overwhelmed by the enormity of the store develops an extreme headache, which causes her to walk around with her eyes half shut, and her to remind me of her pain about every 2 aisles.   after we get all the needed items on our list we head to the food.  we walk down every single aisle finally deciding on poprocks applesauce, the newest creation from motts, chef boyardee mini-beef-ravoli and of course chocolate.  we check out and leave.  the drive home is interesting, as ashley still has her intense headache and finds it necessary to drive with sunglasses on.  mind you it is pitch black and 2 am.  never a dull moment with that girl.
 
we arrive home, and eat our mini ravoli and then i finally pack.  we finish at 3:30 am, and get to sleep, only to wake up 2 hours later to be ready to leave at 7. 
 
Sunday:
the flight from manchester to charlotte was fine, once in charlotte, the waiting that would continue to consume the entire day began.  we had a 4 hour lay over in charlotte, which ended up being even longer since the plane was delayed.  from charlotte to west palm was a nice short flight, and we checked into our hotel to spend the night in west palm around 7 pm.  an 11 hour day spent at airports and in planes. 
 
that night we visited down town west palm beach, a very ritzy and rich little place.  the streets were all of cobblestone, and filled with hummer limos and little sports cars, and also the occasional horse drawn carriage.  colorful and beautiful fountains were on every street corner, and the well manicured palm trees were decorated with white lights.  and a man with beautiful parrots was there to pose for pictures with.  lit up it looked like a romantic scene from the movies, and after dinner we walked down the streets enjoying the warm night air and beauty of the rich little town. 
 
we arrived back at the hotel around 10 and decided that the pool looked like fun, so we went for a late night swim, the four of us, me, jon, ashley and chris.  down at the pool we are asked if we want some drinks by a creepy man that stays and watches us swim for an hour before saying a word to us.  when he leaves to go to the bathroom ashley and i decide the best course of action is to act as if chris and jon are our boyfriends, and avoid any further contact with the man.  ashley and i fight over who gets chris, because number 1, jon is my brother, and that is just weird.  and number 2, jon also has a mullet, and that is even weirder....  in the end we decide if we are playing this ridiculous game, we might as well make chris a little pimp, and have us both be with him, while jon is a part of his little posse... after concocting this ridiculous little story we are disappointed as the man, who was obviously drunk never returned from the bathrooms.  around midnight we decide to head to bed.
 
Monday:
monday my mom ashley and i get on the flight to the base.  we arrive in the bahamas around 11, and meet up with Lea's good friend Jere who takes us to her house, and then gives us a tour of the island.  i being the whitest girl ever burn in the first 15 minutes of being on the island, which is embarrassing enough as it is,, because most of the time we weren't even in the sun, it is worsened by the fact that not only am i burned, but because of the tank top i was wearing it looks like i have two big red bug eyes on my back.  i am ultimately impressed by amazing abilities, and put on sunscreen right away to prevent any further damage.
 
after the grand tour of the base we all decide to hit the beach.  the water is absolutely amazing, a beautiful blue green color, and 80 degrees.  i was in heaven.  :-)  after the beach we head back to lea's and find pete and lea made it home on the 4 o'clock flight.  after showering, we are introduced to the mess hall, and eat with the troops, as we are on an army base.  the food is interesting, but what can you do?  its not like it was the ritz hotel.
 
later that night pete gives us snorkeling 101, and my mom who thinks she is hilarious takes pictures of ashley and i in the living room in our skirts with the flippers and masks on.
 
Tuesday:
tuesday we sleep in late, (big surprise there) and then after peanut butter sandwiches for brunch we head to the beach armed with our snorkeling gear, and for me PLENTY of sunscreen.  we get the hang of snorkeling, which isnt a very hard thing, and cruise around the harbor checking out what little there is to see.  i do however see a barracuda, and a shark.  the shark scared me a little, and i tell ashley to swim the other way, knowing that if i told her it was there she would freak... apparently i swam a little faster than ash did in our get away (as ashley didnt know we were getting away) and she gets angry when i later tell her that i was swimming away from a shark.  the rest of the week i am the on going joke as people seem to think that i lied about the shark, and i seem to see just about every ocean creature there is.  BUT!  it isnt my fault if i am more observant than everyone else now, is it???? 
 
that night we rented a golf cart, because on the island, people dont rent cars, they rent golf carts, and travel around in them.  ashley and i seize this opportunity to explore the entire island, and head out after a brief warning from pete not to wreck it.  we assure him that we are responsible girls and we would never do such a thing.
 
20 minutes later we are in the woods on a path by the beach stuck in between two trees.  ashley is panicking, thinking that we broke the cart for good, the cart which we affectionately named mini-hum-V numba 6.  and i am laughing my ass off, because we had just promised to not break the damn thing.  i gun the engine as ash pushes it with her "super woman strength" and we finally get the cart out.  not too discouraged we decide that off roading is not a fun adventure anymore and we head back to the base to check out less dangerous things.
 
give us only 20 more minutes and again we are in a crisis.  this time, i am driving the golf cart, from the passenger side, and i have no access to the brakes... so of course this job is left up to ashley (not a good idea) we are approaching a stop sign and i tell her to stop, not paying attention she slams on the brakes and locks down the parking break as well, while i continue to give it gas.  we now have on our hands a golf cart with the pedal to the medal, and the parking brake on at the same time.  we are literally burning rubber, and not stopping.  finally i yank the key out and force the gas petal back up, while ashley, who is confused, and very freaked out sits there repeating, oh my god, we broke it... oh my god....  needless to say after that one we decided to call it a night, and head back in for bed. 
  
 Wednesday:
wednesday started very very early in the morning, as i made ashley wake up at 445 so we could go down to the beach and catch the "amazing sunrise, at 5."  we get to the beach by 5 am, and it is pitch black.  it stays pitch black until about 545 when we see light on the horizon.  at this point both of us are very tired, very irritated that the sun hasnt come up yet, and very bug bitten.  by 645 when the sky was light, and pretty, but there was still no damn sun we finally gave up and headed back to lea's.  number 1 so we could wake her up and inform her that not only does the sun not rise until about 630, and number 2 that also she forgot to mention to us how freaking buggy it gets on the beach at night, so our feet and arms are completely, and i mean completely covered in bugbites.  we find her already up when we get back at 7, tell her about our not so fun adventure, and then go back to bed.  she is very sorry that we woke up so early, and makes up for it with a million apologies. 
 
lea is probably one of my favorite people ever.  she is soo nice.  she is the rockingest bahama mama ever! :-D
 
after we wake up for the second time we head out on bay raider, pete's boat, accompanied by lea and my mom, and of course captain pete.  my brother, dad, and chris venture out of finsanity, captained by their good friend bob.  we get to use our mad snorkeling skills and snorkel off of beautiful coral reefs, and then later we explored a blue hole.  the boys go fishing for awhile, while we nap on deck.  they catch 4 lobsters for dinner that night.  later we head over to another quiet little island off the coast of andros and drop off the moms, so the kids can go tubing.  it was ash and my first time, so we went first not knowing what to expect.  it was a ton of fun, and we definitely won in the wipe out competition, with my magical disappearing act, getting sucked down into the tube, and ashley's acrobatic back flip flying through the air.  we all manage to remain in tact, except for very soar stomach mussels from laughing soo hard.  we head back to andros around 6:45 and arrive in the harbor around 715.  we order out for dinner, as the four lobsters wont feed the nine of us that went out.  overall, this was probably the most active and fun day of the week.  even if we didnt get to see the sunrise.
 
Thursday:
thursday we dont wake up until around noon, and decide to make it a day to lounge on the beach.  ashley heads to the beach with the intention of getting a tan, i go in an attempt not to burn.  later that afternoon we decide that we should try and get off the island on the four o'clock flight, because we might not all make it off tomorrow... we head down to the base airport thinking that they would send ash and i over alone, which would have been a ton of fun...  a night alone in florida.... hahahha, imagine the possibilities....  but unfortunately, that was quickly killed, as they only had one seat available on the plane, and so they sent my dad over instead.  we go back to the house and fall asleep in the chairs, or if you ask my mother, we were pouting... because when we sleep, thats really just us pouting....
 
Friday:
friday was a real fun day. . .    almost.  friday ashley is the only one that makes it out on the morning flight off the island, leaving me and my mom and brother behind.  which also meant, because we missed that flight we missed our 1 o'clock connection from west palm home.  so we were stuck.  we try again to get off the island on the 1230 flight, and again are bumped.  we finally make it out on the 4 o'clock, and are lucky enought to fly into philly, and then make it over from philly to manchester on a standby flight at 10 pm.  needless to say i didnt get home until 1am, and have decided that my previous affection for airports has lost its appeal...
 
however... overall the trip was absolutely amazing.... i could have stayed down there for another month i think before i got sick of it.  and there will definitely be a trip down next year.... and the funny thing is, in all of that time ash and i didnt get sick of each other once.  it was crazy fun... memories that will last a lifetime.
 
and now we are back home, and back to the grind of everyday life.  i want to go back on vacation already....


it's never felt soo good to be home. 
 
recap later. :-D
 
 

Saturday, July 10, 2004

he knows that when my nose gets cold my body gets cold as well, and warms me up with eskimo kisses, and bear hugs.

i love eskimo kisses.

and i love late nights underneath the stars, and that i fit underneath his chin, and that he doesn't laugh at what i love most in the world. and the fact that he loves fireworks too. and that he will sit and play games with my best friends insanely drunk parents and laugh and enjoy himself even if its really not what he would like to be doing. and that he will let my crazy puppy get to know him again every single time he comes to the house. and when i ask him to tell me a funny story no matter how tired or on the spot it is, he always tries his best. and that something as simple as just standing together underneath the moon, talking or not, is completely comfortable with him. and i love his thought stealing powers. and so many other little things...

and i love smiling...

smiling is a very good thing. and he makes me smile. he makes me smile a lot.

Wednesday, July 07, 2004

i was a bitch and showed up 2 hours late. she was angry, but not too angry, just disappointed, so she showed her disappointment by sitting on the couch finishing her thank you cards while we sat in awkward silence watching the late show, because yes i was that late.

soon however, the silence got to her, along with her stomach, and it was time to eat, besides the fact that she can never stay angry at me for too long, for which i consider myself really lucky...

but, where does one eat at 1:30 in the morning, if there is nothing in the house to eat. well.... lets just say it was time for another late night adventure.

we get into the car and the silence and awkwardness is broken by the music, and the idea of the late night adventure in store. music and late night drives always has that effect on us, its good that way.

we put in a random mix cd and hit the road, under the bright moonlight, and the stars.

pretty much no one else is out on the roads, because well, it's 1:45 am in ashby, and who in their right minds would be up and out at that time in the night, especially in ashby? NO ONE. but we were, we were and we were having a blast.

hunting for food we leave ashby and head into the 'burg finding everything closed, with the exception of gas stations, despite this we keep on looking. by now it is 2 am, and as we drive by all of the places that say open till 1 am, we are discouraged, i am thinking that home would be the best option, but we go on, searching for somewhere to eat.

we hit lemoinster and find not only a dunkin donuts that is open 24 hours, but also a CVS with a foodmart, and a 24 hour mcdonalds. now not only is it 215, but we are very hungry and there are choices to be made, and god only knows that when we are together we cannot make a decision to save our lives, never mind being very overtired and starving...

we sit in the mcdonalds parking lot for another 20 minutes before deciding to go for mcdonalds, because it is the closest, and we can't make a decision any other way.

we get our food and sit in the parking lot eating. we make artwork out of our ketchup, and watch the sprinkler outside of the car laughing at the water, and then at the way we laugh over the stupidest things. extreme overtiredness is very apparent.

3 am rolls around and i am freaked out by the creepy man that parks next to us in the parking lot, watching us as he eats, so we leave. on the drive home she serenades me with songs from old musicals, and it takes all i have to not crack up in the middle of her rendition of, On My Own, which she very seriously sings 3 times in a row, before i make her stop... number 1 because its soo good, i cant stand it. and number 2, really i am lying about number 1, but it looks better this way. and number 3 she wouldnt let me sing along with her, because it was "her song" so i had to wait to join in the fun, i had to wait till she sang it 3 times in a row...

330 we arrive back at the cabin and i begin to realize despite the amount of caffeine consumed that i will not make it much longer.

we sit down on the couch and she finishes her thank you cards and i fall asleep as i always do on that couch.

around 430 she wakes me up and we go to bed for real. and as i try to fall asleep again i think about everything that had happened that day.

from work, to the fireworks, to our late night adventure, and i realize that even if i could, i would have it no other way, because this is bliss.

and the looming thought of the hundreds of changes on the horizon is becoming more and more of a nightmare, a nightmare i am just not ready to face.

Tuesday, July 06, 2004

stoic she calls her.

"sometimes i can never tell how she feels, and that worries me... sometimes i wonder how much she can take."

she is stoic, because she thinks crying is overrated, and she doesnt want to be the drama queen. and when other people are sad all the time, or complain all the time it pisses her off. she is stoic, because maybe sometimes she really knows the reality of things, and that they cant always be pretty and magical, and things dont always work out, so maybe she just doesnt get upset, because there is no point.... or maybe she just is and doesnt want to show it. so as "stoic" as she may seem she still feels, she still may be upset...

sometimes she just gets sick of it all... and that makes her sad, and angry, and sick. but she still doesnt want to let them know... she wants to keep it a secret, because she is ashamed that it makes her angry, and sad, and sick. this shouldn’t make her angry or sad or sick.


stoic though?

almost.

the mask is slowly beginning to crack.

Monday, July 05, 2004

I’ve always wondered if I would know what true love was when I came across it.

The other night I went to the movies and saw a movie, a movie in which the two actors truly seemed to be in love, a love so pure and so wonderful it could surpass any and all obstacles…

And so it made me think about true love while I was on my drive home in the rain. I came in the door and my grandmother, who had been staying at my house for the past week, was framing a picture of me that she wanted for her table at home. My mom had just printed up a ton of pictures for her off of the computer, and she was very excited about them.

“I can never have too much of my grandchildren, come, come look at my photo album.” She tells me.

Her temporary photo album for the time being was the current book she was reading… and as we flipped through she showed me each picture, tucked away on a different page. When we got the very end of the book she stopped.

There on the last page was a picture of my grandfather. She took out the picture and kissed it and told me that she always used him as a bookmark. Well not bookmarks per say, but an endnote.

He was an endnote because she always took this picture and put it on the very last page of each new book she started. Because when he was still alive the first thing she did was talk about the book with him after she finished it.

And now, with his picture always at the end, it is almost like he is still there, waiting to hear her tell him about the book when she is done. Tears well up in her eyes as she tells me this, and I want to hold her frail, old little body and let her cry, and let her tell me all about him, and how wonderful and romantic, and beautiful their love and life was together. But she wipes her eyes and sits down to finish framing her picture, and the moment passes.

She misses him more than anything, and there is no doubt in my mind that their love was true in the truest sense possible.

And I know he is watching her from up in heaven.